99. Wala ka sa Lolo ko. As for him, we should focus on others' interest than our own.

22 January 2021
The Charisma Principle: People Are Interested In The Person Who Is Interested In Them. (John C. Maxwell, Book: Winning With People)

Stand Firm
2 Thessalonians 2
13 But we ought always to thank God for you, brothers and sisters loved by the Lord, because God chose you as firstfruits to be saved through the sanctifying work of the Spirit and through belief in the truth.

Let me share what I wrote 5 October 2017 which I have updated.

"Warning Against Idleness

2 Thessalonians 3
10 For even when we were with you, we gave you this rule: “The one who is unwilling to work shall not eat.”
11 We hear that some among you are idle and disruptive. They are not busy; they are busybodies.

2 Thessalonians 3 (KJV)
12 Now them that are such we command and exhort by our Lord Jesus Christ, that with quietness they work, and eat their own bread.


It must be also that Apostle Paul was sincerely interested in the productive occupations of the Thessalonians, the quietness in the dignity of the work of their hands, in order to warn some who were idle and disruptive.

In the Charisma Principle, John Maxwell pointed out, we should make the other person feel important, and do it sincerely.

I thought all along that, as common understanding, charisma is being attractive to people. Instead, a new paradigm, it is being genuinely interested in other people, encouraging others to talk about themselves.

In the same Book is a quote from Dale Carnegie: You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years trying to get other people interested in you.

"Lord, create in me a genuine interest in people I interact with, to be able to sense when one is wanting to share a personal concern, something he wants to pray for. It may be a smile that can make him open up, I should remember to address a person by his name for to him it is the sweetest sound to hear. I should talk in terms of the other person's interests. Lord, I can only reach out to others to share the gospel of God's grace by begetting the grace I received through other people who have shown genuine interest in me. Lord, I shall do a good turn, not on my own, but by the Holy Spirit, this I pray in Jesus' name. Amen.''"


More from the Book.

"When talking of charisma, it all boils down to this: the person without charisma walks into a group and says, "Here I am."

The person with charisma walks into a group and says, "There you are." 

Just anybody can learn to do that."

(Authors Marcus Buckingham and Donald O. Clifton, refer to "Woo" which stands for winning over others, for an individual who wants others to know their names, ask them questions and find some common interest so that they can strike a conversation and build rapport.)

"From Woo to You. 
Recently I bought Buckingham's and Clifton's book Now, Discover Your Strengths, and I took the Strength Finder test. And I must confess that "Woo" was in my top five. I've always had the ability to win over others. But I didn't always have charisma, and I'll tell you why. As a young pastor just out of college, I made a mistake by trying to impress everybody. I played the expert, and I purposely taught over people's heads. I even wore glasses to try to look older and smarter. Today I'm embarrassed by how I behaved. But I learned my lesson. I didn't need to impress anybody. (It wasn't working or helping me anyway.) I just needed to let people know I cared about them and wanted to help them.

If you want to be the kind of person who makes others smile when they see you coming, get outside yourself, change your focus, and become interested in others. Doing these will change your life." Amen.

Imitating Christ’s Humility

Philippians 2
1 Therefore if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, 
2 then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind.
3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, 
4 not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.


May you be blessed with the message.

Maraming salamat.


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